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Senior Author Explores Love - When You Are 70+ and Single

August 16, 2011

POMPTON PLAINS, NJ - Who would have thought that in the 75th year of her up-and-down life at the Seabrook retirement community in Tinton Falls, Monmouth County, NJ, resident Regina Dreyer-Thomas, would meet a man who could finish her sentences?   And she his?  One who likes to hold hands in the movies and hates eggplant as much as she does?  This chance meeting got Ms. Thomas to thinking...what about sharing her ideas about being single, 70+ and how to age successfully with love.
Ms. Thomas has completed a new book entitled Love & Successful Aging When You're 70+ and Single., which today she read to residents of the Cedar Crest retirement community in Pompton Plains.
After being married Ms. Thomas became widowed before moving to Seabrook.  But, she found that she came to a joyful place where she found a new companion with whom she could share her new life with.  That's when she reached out to other couples to see how they came together for love, enjoyment and pleasure, while leading independent, separate lives.
And so, Ms. Thomas designed a survey that she thought would give her the kind of information she was looking for, and might prove helpful to other older adults who were widowed, divorced, or never married but were hopeful about meeting someone with whom they could walk love's path.
Ms. Thomas sent the survey to other retirement communities, senior centers, assisted living venues and friends and acquaintances.  She received responses from several single individuals in their 70's through 90's who are in exclusive, committed relationships with a significant other while living separately.
A common thread ran through the responses: for one, the unmarried couples want to stay that way; two, they live separately but come together four or five times a week for lunch or dinner, social events, or just to watch a movie or TV together; three, they love and respect each other; four, they do not take each other for granted; and five, they do not let other people (including their children) define their relationship; and perhaps most important, they live in the present.
Finding new information on trust and intimacy, Ms. Thomas found in her research on older adults and Internet dating sites that there are issues other than just sex for the single adult.  One should also address the social and emotional needs of those widowed, divorced, or never-married who comprise this specific group, and inspire them to open their minds and hearts to love, joy and companionship with a significant other.
Perhaps the Guatemalan proverb says it best: "Everyone is the age of their heart."
Ms. Thomas may be contacted at for more information.
Approximately 2,000 people live at Cedar Crest, an Erickson Living full-service retirement community that promotes a vibrant lifestyle.  Erickson Living develops and manages 16 full-service retirement communities that provide worry-free living for America's seniors - the country's fastest-growing population segment.  Erickson Living's refundable entrance deposit and predictable monthly service fees provide residents across the country financial peace of mind. Comprehensive health and wellness services, integrated into every community, lead to demonstrated resident benefits.  For more information, visit